Is Cereal a Soup? Karl Takes an Autism Quiz and What Do You Do With the Ashes?

00:00Welcome to These Who Shouldn't Have a Podcast. I'm autistic, according to Paul. Don't rip it a bear, according to you.

00:11Okay.

00:14It wasn't according to me, it was according to you.

00:18Coming up in this episode. I need more women to uh listen to. Why does it sound wrong? I need more women. No, I didn't say it like that though, did I? You mean you you need more women's opinions? Yeah. And I reckon you would have had like checky pants on. Quite quite the tail. Quite quite quite short.

00:46It would have been proper tied and blazer and all that. Yes, sir. I think I'm autistic. Only think. Well, I had to think about it for a while as well. I had to gather evidence.

01:32Welcome back to the podcast. All right, mate. How's it going? Good. Good, good, good. Busy day. Small talk is one of the things that I just can't fucking do. I know, that's why I do it. You're not seeing yourself cringe the way that's my face actually, mate. Oh small talk. It's true. There's no point to small talk. But there is. No, there isn't. There is. There isn't there is no point. Do you not small talk when you network? No. Do you not? No. Well, yeah, that's why I have rubbish and network. I'd go in with a proper question, something insightful. Just straight away. Right, could okay, we'll put it this way. This again, this might be a bit of a British thing, but you know, you say, You alright? To somebody. Yeah, how's the weather? Weather's rubbish today, isn't it? But but yeah, it just means to be cringe. Whereas if I said you what's your favourite biscuit, you'd be like, What the fuck? But that would be so much more interesting because everybody talks about the weather and stuff like that. I don't mind a casual hello. Yeah. Oh yeah, but I mean only asking you how your day was, and you were like crumbled in front of me. It was like Aunt Bessie's another apple crumbles out there. Um Bessie does apple crumble. I thought Um Bessie's was savory, it was like Yorkshire puddings. Yeah, they do uh apple grumbles and rolly polys. I'm surprised you eat apple crumble, isn't that a bit like cheesecake? No, not at all. Anyway, right. Um so welcome back to the podcast. Um, would just like to say thank you for all the views. Um we really appreciate it. What's what's really interesting, actually? I I showed you the stats, didn't I, from YouTube views, and I thought it was really interesting that 94.6% of our viewers are men. I know it's been sexist, haven't you? Well, who's been sexist? Not us. No, no, I know, yeah, but we we clearly we we clearly don't appeal to women, probably on many fronts. Yeah, yeah, that's why I won't get to know our space. Yeah, in fact, I would be shitter like because you're small talking about it. I would just yeah, that's what I won't be. You know, we won't we what would you be chat up line me? You do AI I would have a chat up line. I'd have to wait. What do you think of AI? Anyway, we're not talking about a chat up line. Oh, it's got a wife and Pappily married, correct? But yeah, 96.4, or was it 94.4.6, wasn't it? Um the the dynamic is I think 25 to 55 is our is our key audience. Oh, that's okay, according to YouTube. Um that's nice. Thanks, thanks everyone. We want more women. That's wrong. It it it does, but you know, show your partners, show your wives, show your you know, as well. Yeah, just finding it funny. Because I don't think we're we're we're being sexist in any way. I don't think we're being something like what have you got planned? I never know. I mean I I need more women to uh listen to me. Why does it sound wrong? I need more women. But I didn't say it like that though, did I? You mean you you need more women's opinions? Yeah, you don't mean you need more women. Wife number two, like he's diseased. Is that what I said? New more women, yeah. Oh sorry, opinions. Right, you know what I'm like, I forget words, yeah. Well, we need more women's opinions on it as well. Well, we've had a few. We've had a few. We have had a few, you know me, so and it's good. Just keep on coming, thank you. And we would like to say as well, we have got a lot of viewers, but not a huge amount of subscribers. So please, if you are watching on YouTube and you do enjoy it, just do us a favour and subscribe because it pushes our stuff out further, and it means you're gonna then get a notification as well when we launch a new episode, which we launch every Thursday. Thursday. Every Thursday. We're launching Patreon soon as well, so actually, if you want to support us even more, we're gonna be doing some extra content there. There'll be an extra episode, there'll be early access to episodes, there'll be all sorts of extra goodies that you get if you want to become sort of like a these two podcast groupie. Are we? I'm joking, yeah. Yeah, which would be really cool. And if you haven't checked out the website, please do check out the website because that is where you can get involved. You can get involved with voting basically our argument. We'll pick out one of the disagreements that we've had per episode. And you can there's only a few. Yeah, there's a few, but we'll pick one of them out, one one particular argument, and you can vote team Carl or Team Paul. And at the moment, I think it's three apiece. I think the viewers have voted so that um you've won three episodes, I've won three episodes, and there's one that's drawing. Oh, okay. So yeah, I I need more supporters. What I do like about the sites is the fact you could submit questions as well. You can. Uh and get our opinion on things. And we've had one. We have we've had a few. Well, we've had a few, yeah, but we've got another one we want to discuss today, I think. We have, go on then. Uh from um we're allowed to say his name, aren't we? I didn't see the tick. It it was yes, wasn't it? Yeah, yeah. I don't know. Anyway, say is we could read it out on the show and we could mention his name. He said he he didn't say that he wanted to remain anonymous. Okay, so yeah, this one's from Bobby Rangoonwala. And what he wants to know is is cereal a soup? Thoughts. Well, I've got to go first. Well, yeah, because I've asked I've asked the question, so that's all. No, you're not no Bobby asked the question. Well, yeah, he has, but I've re I've reread the question, read asked the question. Right. So is cereal a soup? Well, oh no, it's not just as simple as a yes or no, right? Because really, in my in my mind, right, which is a fucking scary place, yeah, it boils down to what is your definition of soup. And to be honest, I'm I'm stuck, right? Because originally I was thinking cereal is not soup because it's not warm, right? But then I thought, well, hang on a minute, what if you had some soup and you let it go cold? It doesn't stop being soup. No, you can get cold soup. Yeah, it doesn't stop being soup just because it's cold, right? So then I was thinking, but yeah, but it's not savory. Right. So I'm sort of more with the I don't think cereal soup, I think it shares some qualities of soup. You know, it's it's wet stuff with floaty bits in it. So is soup savory? I don't know, because you have like Chinese sweet and sour soup. Yeah. I mean that's so cereal savoury. For fuck's sake. What? That's what I'm asking you. You just said it's not very savoury. Yeah, so I'm asking cereal savoury then. Is it cereal? No, cereal cereal savory. You said cereal's not very savoury, didn't you? Confusing the fuck out of it. That's what you said, though. So that's what that's why you don't think it's a soup. So you're saying soup savory? I I I I think soup should be savoury. Yes. Right. Okay. So I don't think you can have fruit soup. Right? Can you?

08:48Just stop letting me struggle with this. Um you know what's crazy. I don't think it's a soup. You don't think it's not. You don't think cereal is soup. Why? Why don't you think it's a good one? Because cereal's still cereal when it's dry. Because cereal is still cereal when it's dry. Yeah.

09:08So cereal is an ingredient that you that add milk to. But you can have cereal dry. You can't have soup dry, can you? It's not soup. You can just open cereal and eat it dry. It's a good point that. So for me, no, it's not. You don't think it's a soup? I don't think it's a soup, no. Alright, well, I don't think it's a soup. Well, there you go. Bobby, we don't think it's soup, mate. No, we we we don't. Do you think it's soup? That's what I'd like to know. And what what do other people think? Do other people think cereal is a soup. But it'd be interesting to actually see if Bobby will answer his own question. I mean it's not gonna change our mind. It's not, no. I I don't think it is. I can understand why people would, because obviously it's a liquid form of thing, and that's what soup is a liquid form. I mean, that's like saying rice pudding. Is rice pudding a soup? No. Rice pudding is rice pudding. Okay. Don't do rice pudding. You don't do anything. Rice pudding reminds you the school though, don't it? It's a bit weird, isn't it? I've got some fun memories for some of the f the the food at school. School dinners? Oh no, as well. Simple thing ever, it's probably the cheapest thing for them to make, but it was like one of the things that that all the kids would go for was you know, the iced fingers. Yeah. I was wondering where your mind was gonna go then. Oh no. Iced fingers, yeah. Yeah, just like uh like a hot dog bap with with just gonna something icing on top. No, no, yeah, you just wouldn't do it, would you? They were great. They were great. I didn't I wasn't a big school dinner fan. Yeah, no, I mean we had them because we were poor, we had free school dinners, you know what I mean? I had sandwiches most of the time. Yeah, until I went to senior school, then it was like, no, we'll just go to the shop or the chippy, and that was fine. Got looked after then, but in primary school looked after,

11:00but you know, social services turned up, yeah, yeah. It's the new parents. Well, this is it, you know. Uh but yeah, we we did that in school. School dinners, my sister was a legend for school dinners, though. She she but she'd bunker. How could you be a legend? Because this is how this is her audacity, and she'll kill me for saying this, right? And she'll know exactly no, I'm not gonna name her, she'll know, right? She used to bunk off school and come back in for the dinner. Well, why not? And then and then bunk back off in the afternoon. She's gonna need energy for bunking off in the afternoon. She may as well come back for dinner. It's just like legendary, you know? I'll turn back on for me dinner. So she didn't she wasn't didn't get a mark on the register in the morning, yeah. She'd come in for the mark and then disappear. Right. Then she'd come back for the dinner and then disappear in the afternoon. That's ingenious, that you know what I mean. I'd I'd I'd have quite like to have done that. Yeah, to be fair. Well, you know, but then it wouldn't really make any difference because I I took my own lunch and could have just done me lunch with you. Yeah, I could I could see you probably I can I I can imagine what you were like in school, to be fair. Go on. I reckon you would uh sat there with your pack lunch and chess club. Well you know that'd be a chess. So we had that discussion last night. I reckon you would have had like checky pants on, quite quite quite quite quite short with white with white socks on, and your tie would have properly been done up properly. No, it would have been proper tied and blazer and all that and and and and sat there, yes sir. You were definitely sat at the front of the park. Maybe the first couple of years at secondary school, I was I was perhaps a little bit nerdy, but then I wasn't. I was like it didn't go off the rails completely, but I wasn't I was not nerdy. Yeah, I was intelligent and articulate, but you don't show that on either fuck off

13:01oh I don't show this. Mr Mr. I'll answer a question without all the facts. I don't need the facts to answer a simple question. Yes you do. No, there's no facts to be needed. Actually, there's there's a there's a point on that. I know we were talking about score, but on the whole on the whole answering questions thing. Yeah. Right. I think I'm autistic. Only think. Well, I had to think about it for a while. Well, I had to gather evidence. Right. I I do I I did um I did some tests, online tests. Oh, oh well AI tests. Did you did you did you type in AI? I'm I auto one of the things, but no, this this test is is one that the NHS uses. In fact, what I think it'd be really fun to do. Oh, okay, is there's ten questions. Right. I know what I would I know how I would answer them as self-assessment wise. Okay, interesting to think what you think for each of these questions. And bear in mind For me or for you for me, as if you judge you answer the questions on my behalf, you knowing what you know about me. Right. Because you know me reasonably well. Yeah, this is gonna be fun. Um, and bear in mind when you when you answer. I'm not gonna get offended. It's okay. I'm just saying. I mean it depends how you answer them. Well, it depends what the question is. If you say I agree because you're a knobed, then that's slightly offensive. Whereas if you just say I agree. Is it element of truth in there?

14:24Yeah, exactly.

14:25I own being a knob head, that's fine. No, anyway, hang on. Details are important here. Okay. When I did the test, it it it gives you uh gradings of five. Is it five gradings? I think. Right. No, four, I think. It was like strongly disagree, slightly disagree, agree, strongly agree. But it it doesn't have to, you don't have to if you lose track of that and you can't mentally keep up with that, then you can just go with agree or disagree. Okay, right. So are you are you ready? I'm gonna yeah, I'm gonna read these questions out. Yeah, so so this is the this is the AQ 10, or it's based on the AQ10, okay, NHS, National Health Service in the UK. Um, I can't read out the exact wording, so I've changed the wording slightly of the questions. Right, okay, because apparently it's copyrighted. They've copyrighted a fucking assessment. Well, that's the NHS all over, isn't it? Well, it doesn't surprise me, so yeah. Just make make it so I understand the question.

15:22Right.

15:22Well, there's some words here that have got like two syllables. Oh you fucked up. I'll do my best. Go on, let's let's let's let's have it. Right, okay. So you've this isn't do you, this is I'm not doing anyone. I'm just answering them before you said you had another one. I'm gonna I'm gonna answer them for you. You wait more. Let me answer them for you. Right, answer them for me. Yeah, so so this isn't I notice, this is Carl notice. Yeah, yeah. Right. So I notice small sounds that other people don't seem to hear. For example, the fridge humming, ticking clock, someone chewing two rooms away. I'd agree with her. So you think you think? I think you do. I do. Okay, so let's let's unpick that a bit more then. So a little bit or strongly? A little bit. Okay, okay. Yeah. I often spot patterns in things like numbers. Oh fucking 100%. I finished the question. 100% strong. Yeah. Alright. I'm feeling a bit persecuted now.

16:28I'd rather do things the same way every time, and it bugs me when my routine gets messed up. Ooh. I'm gonna sort of agree with that. Um you don't mind change if it's your change, not somebody else's change. Now you just make me sound like a fucking narcissist. This isn't a narcissist test. This is a fucking test. My opinion. Okay, okay, you you can keep your onions to yourself. Alright, fair enough. So you think that's a slightly agree? Yeah, it's an agree, but it's a slight agree. Okay, I'll go. I'm not gonna give you my thoughts yet. I find it hard to tell what someone is thinking just from their face.

17:16I'm gonna slightly disagree with that. Oh, really? You think I'm gonna be good with body language? I I I think if somebody says something and you you or you they're not quite clear on it, you're quite quick to pick up on that. Yeah, but if someone's sad, if I if I said to if I said to you, are you alright? And you said, Yeah, I'm alright. Yeah. So you you you think that I think if you knew them, you'd pick up on whether they are or not. So I'm gonna slightly disagree. Okay, slight slight disagreement. Yeah. So so that's four questions in. There's only one disagreement so far. Okay. I'm not keeping count, you know. I am keeping count. Okay. Um when someone's dropping a hint, I usually miss it, or they have to spell it out.

18:03And that's spell it out, not smell it out. No, I get I get that. And just in other words, subtleties. Do what do I recognise subtleties? No, I'm gonna go agree. I reckon uh I reckon I reckon you misses as a nightmare, to be honest. In more ways than one. Okay, when uh you ready for this next one? Yeah, small talk at parties is very hard work for me. Oh I I I mean I mean, is there anything stronger than strongly agree with her? Like very strongly agree with her. Well, I I almost didn't go on to the next question just because I thought, yeah. Anyway, um, when I get into something, I go all in and can lose hours to it without noticing. I didn't finish, you done it again, you jumped in. Okay, you ain't got all the details, all the facts. No, I'm moving on. No, because you know, right. Alright. I like collecting facts about one subject, like cars, gadgets, bands, or films. Yeah. Strong or a bit. I mean, if it just say yeah, it means it's strong. Right, okay. There's no de there's no degree. Oh, so it's like yeah, or oh a little bit. Yeah, right. Yeah. Yeah. I find it easy to do two things at once.

19:30Um intermediate on that one. I think it's a touch and go. Intermediate's not an option. Right. It's it's either you agree or you don't, and it's either slight or off the scale. I'm gonna slightly disagree. Slightly disagree. Okay, yeah, I'll go with that. And finally, I'd rather go to a library or stay in than go to a party. Oh, yeah, 100%. Right, so the one that you slightly disagreed with, the I find it easy to do two things at once. Yeah, that's almost like a bit of a red herring one. For people who are filling this in, just going, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Because it's actually the opposite. Obviously, it's hard to do two things at once when you're autistic, you get become very focused on I've got to finish it. But anyway, so so according to your grading of me, your assessment of me, yeah. I mean, that puts me in the very likely autistic. Yeah. You judgmental bastard. Oh, you're definitely on the spectrum, mate. Spectrum 48k, maybe not. I do, ZX. Yes, rubber keys. I don't know what you did. Rubber keys. I'm not on about the take deck one. Anyway, anyway, sorry. So I I graded pretty much the same as you. Right. Um the the the the slight irony was when I was doing it, it was like, yeah, very strong. Very strong. You know, there's you know, sometimes you do things and it's like you're struggling, it's like you put yourself in the middle. You know, one of them that I went in the middle. It's like, yeah, yeah, yeah, no, yep, yep, yep. And then I started thinking, it set me off on a little bit of a thing then. I started looking at odd behaviour and thinking about some of my own odd behaviour and thinking about some of my own quirks that would potentially, you know, throw out the fact that I'm not autistic, right? Oh right, okay. And I couldn't find any, but I could find some that made me think, yeah, Cardi Deckhead, you are definitely autistic. Such as, right? I can't drink flavoured water. Right? Because it just doesn't compute in my head. If it had a colour in it. Do you have cordial? Yes, that's fine. That's flavoured water. But it has a colour. I cannot drink a translucent liquid that has a flavour. It messes my brain up. Does that mean you're autistic though? No. Because I can't drink them over. Can't you? No, I don't like them. Well, yeah, but you don't like them, or you or it hurts your brain to think about them. I think the thought of it makes me not like them. Oh, you might be autistic. Should we do the questions for you? So that's one oddity. I've also got another, right? I can't watch gross stuff while I'm eating. Literally, that is it. Done. You can't watch horrible gross stuff. Like you have to give me an example. Like the wife loves. Can't watch the wife while you eat. You know me. Right. You might want to edit that bit out. You fucking said it on it. You brought it, you said it yourself. Like the wife you said. I can't watch gross stuff when I'm eating. Like the wife is what you said. I hadn't finished my sentence though. The wife is quite into um pimple popper. If you've seen the the the pimple popper. Well, that's just minging, innit? It is minging. But you know, she'll watch that on one of like the the sky channels when we're eating, and it's like, love you, you have to switch this off. Or then she'll she'll revert to watching it on a phone like that. It's like I can still hear it, I can still see it. Yeah, it really puts me. I can't eat. I'd honestly that is it. That's like that's the meal done. Yeah, it's like it's put me off completely. I don't know why anyone would want to eat one, so yeah, but there's there's a oh I don't want to see it versus versus it makes me. What about like someone's leg hanging off or something? I don't mind gross things. No, when you're eating when I'm eating, no, can't can't eat. You're watching a film and someone gets their head blown off and they're running around like a zombie with half an head. Oh, actually, that's a good point. That's probably okay if it's a film, because it's almost like I know that it's it's make believe. But if it's real. Oh, no. Yeah. And smells, certain smells can put me off my food completely as well. Well, I think that's funny anyone, isn't it? But yeah, I I don't know. I don't know, is it? Yeah. But yeah, I think I think I've got some sense of smell. Yeah, but you hear of people who sit on the toilet and can eat a sandwich while they're having a shit. Who who could do that? No. Who could do that? I mean, it will go on my phone occasionally. I mean, I don't mean shit on my phone. I mean

24:03I mean it's just sitting there, you know. Is that some special interest fight? Just by there playing the game, you know.

24:11But it's weird, isn't it? Yeah, people have weird things. If your thing is weird. No, but they do, right? Anyway, I'm autistic, I think. Well, anyway. Congratulations. Thank you. I don't diagnose why you're labelling yourself though. Well, I I'm not, but it just makes a lot more sense. Well, no, you are well, you've just labelled yourself. Why don't you just be Carl? Well, I am. You're just Carl. But no, it explains The reason, actually, the reason I I looked everybody's different reason I looked was because well I used to label myself as an introvert, but actually I think it goes beyond that. I think I've got characteristics of someone who's autistic as opposed to just being an introvert. Yeah. I mean, I I get it, and we uh we have to sort of diagnose people and stuff like that, but at the end of the day, it's because society has made us that way. Oh, you're not normal. I mean, what is normal? Do you know what I mean? It's just like okay, if you're happy and you're at peace with that and that's what you think, then good luck to you, mate. But yeah. As long as you're still yourself, that's all that matters. So you like you you like the autistic carl? Well mate, I'm sat here next to him, man. Oh my godness. You know what I mean? It's never not been uh a case, has it? But anyway, I want to change it slightly. Go on, but it's still weird stuff. It's a bit bit bit strange, I think. Right, so but I'm not in this situation, so I'll get to the point. It'd be nice if you did at some point, okay. Because these episodes are only meant to be about 30 years. Yeah, so lost my mum seven years ago. I didn't lose her as in like she's gone missing. She's passed, she passed away. Uh coming up to seven years ago, but we still have my mum's ashes, or my dad does, at home. Anyway, he was talking with my uncle, who's lost his wife recently as well, and he's got her ashes, and he was talking about what they do sometimes with the ashes. And I'm like, What do you mean? I just thought they'd be on the mantelpiece or they'll be in the wardrobe or stored somewhere, yeah, stored, kept, but when they pass, they can join them. I mean, because you can get some quite ornate things, certain type things. It's uh it's beautiful, you know what I mean? It's it's it's a nice uh um vase looking. Not not vase, a vase. So anyway, sorry, but anyway, yeah, so they got talking about strange things anyway. So my uncle decided to take my auntie on a day trip, stuck it in the carrier bag. As in took her in her current state, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, with the urn, stuck the urn in the carrier bag, took them up to one of their favourite places, stuck it on a bridge, and took a photo of her. So he found this a bit strange. What was on the carrier bag? I don't know what type of carrier bag.

27:15Might have been a bag inside a bag, but anyway, he took it, he put it in a carrier bag, took it up to this one of the favourite places they used to go, stuck it on the um the bridge, and decided to take a photograph of the scenery or was there in it? I'm I'm to be honest, this is gonna sound like I'm being so disrespectful now, and apologies in advance because I'm not being disrespectful. But you know, if you had a photograph with a partner, yeah, you'd you'd probably put your head to one side slightly and put your arm out. I mean I've not seen a photo to be honest, but I'm assuming the way it's been told to me that she's on her own. Oh, on her own, yeah. So the pot will be like on the not sort of like arm round, who knows? However, he asked my dad, do you have you done anything strange? So he he wondered himself whether it was a bit unusual, yeah, a bit unusual. So he asked my dad about has he done anything? So I'm like, This get this could be weird. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, so um anyway, it turns out that sometimes my dad sits there with her on the couch on the sofa at the side. This isn't gonna get inappropriate now. No, no, they just put a bit of music on and they'll have a sing song. They will have a sing song. He he will have a single. Yeah, yeah. But see, my mum, when she used to sing, you would know about it. Worst voice ever. It was uh it was shocking, you know. I mean, I've got a couple of videos, uh you know, it's they are they are memorable. But yeah, so he could obviously hear a voice so he sings right obviously. So too easy in that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But she's on the set, she's on the sofa, I'm just gonna say. So instead of keeping her on the sideboard just playing the songs, he's actually brought her off the sideboard and sat next to her on the couch. So my question is I've got so many questions. But my my question is, is this what people do when a loved one passes away and they've kept all to the ashes? Is it what is it normal? Or is this a your family thing again? I I suppose for two guys to actually it's good that they've talked about it. It is everybody deals with Greek. Now I uh now I've put it out to the world. So I'm asking the world and I'm asking everybody, and I'm trying them. I don't care. You know what I mean? At the end of the day, it is what it is, isn't it? They might get cancelled though without complaints. That's okay. Complaints are good. You said it the other week, didn't you? Feedback, yeah. Exactly. Um so my question is anyway, is it just is it just them? Are there other people willing to admit that they do that? I always thought that ashes were an unusual idea. But then when Murphy, our dog passed, and we really loved Murphy, you know, there's sometimes you have pets and you like them, but they pass and they pass, you know what I mean. Murphy was just like he's seen so much of our lives. Yeah. And we did get the ashes for Murphy, but I don't take him out for a walk anymore. I don't I don't feed him, I don't take him to his favourite places anymore. Well, obviously they don't feed him. Well, we have got his ashes there, they're downstairs in the living room. But I don't know whether for my uncle it was he wanted to go back to the place but didn't want to go on his own. It's unusual. I tell you what's unusual because because people quite often spread the ashes, don't they? Yeah. Again, it's I thought what you were gonna say is you know he's he's took them in a bag and then he's he's spread the ashes or let the ashes go at the place that was memorable for them. I can sort of understand that, but to but to then put it back in a shopping bag and bring it bring it back. But after taking a photo, I'd forgot about the photo. I'm trying not to laugh because it's disrespectful. But inside I'm screaming. I I I get it. Is it disrespectful the fact that they've come out and said it though? So it I think I think what they want to know is is it what other people have done as well? But would it change their behaviour anyway? I mean, fuck it. Whether it's what people do or not, but you gotta if they're okay with that, they're gonna be able to do it. Yeah, but you've got to realise the generation, the generation of where they've come from. And the the the the two baby boomers. I don't even know what that is, mate. So but yeah, the you know they'll be baby boomers. My dad's what 65, 65. It'll be a baby boomer. Me uncle's 70. It'll be baby boomers. You know, I mean they always go on all of these. Do you not know what the baby boomer generation was? Don't take too long to explain. Yeah, you get confused, you'll have questions. It's like the mother generation ones they have as well. So millennials, yeah, yeah, one of them. Gen Y, Gen X. I I need I need you can educate me on that. Okay, on another episode. Today's not the day, so that but I'd like to ask people out there what what's the strangest thing you you've done with people's ashes with people's ashes on your own? Well, but what are you gonna do with your own? I mean your own family. Yeah, you don't you know we're not talking about being a burglar and picking someone's ashes and doing something weird with it because that's no, no, that's not true. No, I mean I just think even thinking. Has anyone struck a loved one who's passed on a holiday or anything like that? You know what I mean? Well, we always take loved ones, past loved ones on holiday and suck with us because we take them in our memories. I mean that would I mean the ashes don't. I know it's the physical thing, the physicality of that we don't really get. That's what I'm saying. But I'm not in that position. But please, please, can you ask your uncle what bag it was? Because I think that's important. Why does it value her? Well, you know, if you're gonna go out for an evening or a night out or something, you get dressed up, and especially women, they're more bothered about getting dressed up and doing the hair and the makeup and stuff. Yeah. So how dare he? If he took her in an Aldi bag, that's there. Never speaking to him. It needs to at least have been a same stress bag. Do you know what I think? She'd have been disgusted if she was in an Aldi bag. Well, she might have been the other way, she might have preferred Aldi. Well, maybe. Well, let us know in the comments or send feedback in, because yeah, I'm I'm genuinely interested as well. As in, do do they think first of all, do you think it's normal? Yeah. Secondly, would would they do it? And have they got any funny stories? Yeah, absolutely. I know I know in the Indian culture, that like my wife and stuff, in her culture. I don't mean the Indian culture, in my wife's culture, I should say, because everyone's different, they're not allowed to have the ashes in the house. Are they not? No, no, but aren't they in fact they don't bury either, do they? They they in Indian burn burn. It sounds awful that they cremates, yeah, but it's all open cremations, isn't it? It is in India, and it's on the same day as depass. Which I think's clinically a better way of doing stuff. Yeah. Anyway, so yeah, let please let us know in the comments because we're genuinely interested. And please don't take offence at us laughing. We are laughing along with the situation that we find funny not being disrespectful to anybody, not particularly no disrespect.